When should parents confront each other?

I get that it’s important to pick your battles, but at a certain point you do have to pick a battle. The thing is that you really must demand of yourself and other people that they treat each other civilly. Parents should not be allowed to be in a parent meeting and get away with treating other people badly.

You need to strategise about when and where you speak to the person, because that’s just as important as the content of your breaking down how you articulate when things are going wrong for you, what you don’t like, what you need, and then actually doing it.

If you don’t speak up, then the parent who is being rude or uncivil sets the agenda for the school, because your voice is not there demanding civility. If we want our kids to stand up, we’ve got to do it ourselves.